Ali Matteini

a life creative

A Long Pause Between Words

Slowly, slowly flowing back into the season of normality. This week we spent some much needed time in Ravenna in the off season, revelling in the cool and quiet of the smelly Adriatic sea, chatting and eating too much and enjoying life in each moment.

So much has happened: shocks and opportunities, and the myriad decisions that come with them. I went to Firenze in July to participate in a chasing and repoussé course with gifted maestro Fabrizio Acquafresca. In spite of it being Firenze in July (inferno) and me with a virus, the course was fantastic I’ll put up my long lost repoussé post, and others – including a Lives Creative profile – in the coming days.

During the time I was in Firenze, my father-in-law was admitted to hospital with a sore neck and shoulder that had been bugging him for a month. The weekend I came home he was diagnosed (after two weeks in hospital!) with a couple tumours in his lungs, which had metastasized. The following weekend he died, painlessly, leaving the family gobsmacked with the velocity of it all, and the audacity of death stealing in whenever it pleases.

August in Italy is busy for those of us who work in the tourist sector and/or own a shop that never closes. The Santa Fiora population swells with city escape artists seeking the cool of the mountain air, and the locals merrily skip off to roast themselves on the beach. And because in Italy funerals happen the day after the death and so many people were away on holiday we found ourselves relating the story of what happened dozens of times a day, in person, in messages, on the telephone, tapering off for the next three weeks.  All of us were exhausted. Marco fell into bed and all night kicked through his grief as though swimming, and I lay awake exhausted. Normally I’d find solace in writing but I found I couldn’t write – the words were all used up by the end of each day.

That was August; it’s October now: the snow in the globe settles eventually, always, a lesson to learn and relearn regularly. My mantra – or one of a few – as we lean into the pointy end of the year.




12 comments on “A Long Pause Between Words

  1. Annie Day
    October 10, 2016

    Lots of love to you both, very sad for Marco. Ravenna magic. Love Annie XXXX

  2. Liz
    October 10, 2016

    Sincere condolences Ali to you and Marco and family, looking forward to seeing you both in Australia x

  3. Rosalind and Jim Smith
    October 11, 2016

    OMG what a shock. Jim and I are so sorry for your loss. It is never easy no matter what the terms when you lose someone you love and cherish. You never forget them but you do learn to live without them in time. Our thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time. xx

  4. Yvonne Louis
    October 11, 2016

    Such sad news. Love to you both from us all Down Under

  5. Jo
    October 11, 2016


    I’m Jo, I’m an artist, writer, traveller, wild westerner ( and renaissance soul. I’ve just recovered from thirty years of depression and anxiety and I’m rebuilding my creative lifestyle and blogging about it in my new blog Creating My Odyssey.

    I’m finding a lot of inspiration and encouragement from other creative lifestyle bloggers, so wondered if you’d like to have a look at mine. Thankyou.

    Jo UK

  6. Angela Highstead
    October 12, 2016

    Dear Ali & Marco, often there are no words, especially as you describe, “When death sweeps in with such velocity”. But words are what we have. My love, thoughts and prayers are with you and the the family as you all work your way through the grief.
    And here we are on the shores of the magical Ningaloo reef, Coral Bay-swimming and snorkelling and then our Jono and Kylie’s beach wedding on Friday.
    The seesaw of life eh? Joy, sadness sometimes and then hopefully back to joy again.

    Lots of love, Angela xx

    • Kittykatmandoo
      October 15, 2016

      Thanks Ang, Marco sends his thanks as well. Love the seesaw, can imagine you in that glorious acquamarine with a big gorgeous grin. Hope the wedding was sublime! xxx

  7. Pingback: Another Long Pause Between Words | the shiny adventures of kittykatmandoo

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s


This entry was posted on October 10, 2016 by in Family, Italy and tagged , , , , , .

Recent Posts


What’s Happening on Monte Amiata:

Follow Ali Matteini on

Enter your email address for creative updates straight to your inbox. Spam free zone!

Join 906 other followers

Blogs I Follow

Flag Counter
for wordpress
Tours Truly, Tuscany

custom retreats and workshops in tuscany

A Ciência nas Coisas

Fatos e Curiosidades sobre a Natureza e tecnologia


"per l' allegria il pianeta nostro è poco attrezzato. Bisogna strappare la gioia ai giorni futuri "

The Artistry

by Isabelle Warren

the poet's billow

a resource for moving poetry

Two Twitch A Tale

Linking collage work to the meaning of personal and universal symbols.

At Home in Florence: Italian Renovations

This is my adventurous story about buying, designing, and renovating homes in ITALY


guardian of irish mythology

Gathering just-a-bit-o moss

Attempting not to make too little or too much sense


I help you unlock the peace and strength already within you

Tara Sparling writes

Book Humour. A Sideways Perspective on the Bonkers Business of Books


"C’è molta speranza, ma nessuna per noi." (Franz Kafka)

A Holistic Journey

Finding my way back out of motherhood -- while mothering


Expatty-cakes: Diary of an American southerner turned expat

Grand adventures and global wanderings. Next stop: Italy.

Martin Diotte

Creative Artist


Discover the truth about mental health

⚡️La Audacia de Aquiles⚡️

"El Mundo Visible es Sólo un Pretexto" / "The Visible World is Just a Pretext".-

Lady Of The Cakes

Vignettes from a multi-lingual, multi-cake-eating freelance existence


Eyes ten degrees above the horizon

Crafted in Carhartt

about women who do amazing things

Fugitive Fragments

by Mike McGuire

Tricia Drammeh

A Creative State of Mind

elizabeth frattaroli

Writing for Children and Young Adults #amwriting

Jane Dougherty Writes

About fantastical places and other stuff


A topnotch site

Blood On Borrowed Wings

I write, I love, I run, I play, I break things.

Rachel Carrera, Novelist

Writer of psychological thrillers and other things guaranteed to keep you on the edge of your seat


In the Groove...

Interno Poesia

Blog e progetto editoriale di poesia

Poesy plus Polemics

Words of Wonder, Worry and Whimsy

Lasciatemi Pensare.

se non sarò serena, mi rasserenerò

Globe Drifting

Global issues, travel, photography & fashion. Drifting across the globe; the world is my oyster, my oyster through a lens.

Indie Hero

Brian Marggraf, Author of Dream Brother: A Novel, Independent publishing advocate, New York City dweller

Vonj Productions

Bringing you love through spirit!

A Mirror Obscura,

Poetry, musings and sightings from where the country changes

Aisha's Oasis

A peaceful place to relax while on my wild joyride to Egypt from South Carolina.

The Perfect Nose

Sewing, illustration and design.


Undermining the Patriarchy Every Chance I Get. And I Get a Lot of Chances (Copyright Preserved)

%d bloggers like this: